Blog Post by Rodney A. Wilson
Rodney Wilson is a regular guest post writer on Selma on Leadership. Rodney has been a marriage and family pastor/counselor for almost 20 years. Rodney and Selma have been married for 40 years and they have spoken and written on marriage and family issues for most of their married life.
Years ago I decided to memorize the book of Philippians. No, I cannot recite it today but could back in the day. (They say, “If you don’t use it you’ll lose it” and they’re right!) One of the most remarkable insights I gained over that exercise was to see Paul’s relentless mentioning of his joy. And he was in a prison. More like a dungeon in those days.
Paul was urging the Philippians (and us today) to focus on the positive. The good in life. What’s going right. To count our blessings regardless of our circumstances.
In Philippians 4:8 he tells us if there is anything worth anything we are to go there. Acknowledge. Remember. Recognize. Celebrate!
“Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable – if there is any moral excellence and if there is any praise – dwell on these things.”
Wedding anniversaries are prime time for living our marriages with a Philippians 4:8 attitude! To concentrate on and celebrate the good in our marriages regardless of the current circumstances.Wedding anniversaries are a time to celebrate the good - regardless of the current circumstances! Click To Tweet
Here are five benefits to celebrating your wedding anniversary:
1) Celebrating helps you remember the blessings in your life together. On our 25th wedding anniversary we enjoyed a long dinner in downtown Nashville close to where we live. We began that evening discussing our first year of marriage and thought of some things that were cool, funny or “mile markerish” about that year. That conversation dominated our whole evening as we went through the entire 25 years remembering things perhaps we’d forgotten or hadn’t thought of in a long time. Wedding, honeymoon, seminary, yet another ministry move. One kid, then another. New jobs. So many memories!
You don’t have to recall every year like we did, but take some time to reminisce about your time together. Recalling can help you realize the quality of your marriage and keep you from forgetting the blessings throughout.
2) Celebrating gives hope to your marriage. Again, this hope can be present regardless – or perhaps especially in the midst of – your current circumstances. As you reflect on how God has blessed your relationship in the past, it compels you to believe that He will bless it in the future. Hebrews 13:5 encourages us with this:
I will never leave you or forsake you.
3) Celebrating your anniversary is an awesome consolation to getting older! The age of my marriage is one area I don’t mind people knowing even though it implies that I’ve got some age on me. After all, you cannot be married 40 years and be a spring chicken, and that’s okay with both of us.
Even when we were young in our marriage I couldn’t wait for our marriage to be another year older. It is like asking a 6-year-old how old she is and she brags, “I’m six now, but I’m gonna be 7!” I felt that way about our young marriage and still do. Now our marriage is 40 but next year it will be 41! Celebrate the years. Great consolation to getting older.
4) Celebrating recognizes another accomplishment in your marriage team. Your team has made it another year. The marital momentum builds. You’re on a roll and it’s a good one. It is good to acknowledge achievement especially such a vital fabric of our society as marriage. Your marriage can be strengthened through the recognition of its progress.
5) Celebrating pays respect to the institution of marriage created by our Lord. Marriage takes a lot of hits these days. Just listen to the latest comedian spilling his “ball and chain” marital humor. By celebrating you are saying marriage is cool and you’ve been part of it for X number of years. You are proud to be associated with this institution. Respect.
So, in your quiet way (as we have for most of our anniversaries) or in your elaborate, blowout, exotic way, celebrate. Like all marriages, yours is not perfect but that doesn’t disqualify you from observing and enjoying your journey together as it gets another year down the road. This is an amazing gift from God that needs to be partied regardless of your current situation.
It is scriptural, it will build confidence in your marriage team and it’s just plain fun. So celebrate!