Good conversations are happening about the dangerous impact of bullies and many organizations are taking steps to educate and address these concerns. We have all seen and heard the stories of the tragic impact of bully behavior on children and teens. We are left horrified and terrified that this kind of treatment of others has taken place.
But, have you ever stopped to ask, “Am I a bully?”Have you ever stopped to ask, 'Am I a bully?' Is it possible to be a bully and not know it? Click To Tweet
Is it possible to be a bully and not know it? Here are six behaviors to watch:
- You feel entitled to use your position of power to tell others what to do.
- You use your personality as an excuse to be hard or direct with others. “I can’t help it, I am a lion leader.”
- You react angrily when people don’t respond quickly to your emails, texts, or messages.
- You interrupt people with no regard to their time.
- You are quick to assess a person or situation based on your own personal preferences and others often come up short to your standards.
- If you aren’t leading the meeting, you still control a room with your nonverbal communication (crossed arms, where you sit, your silence, and even your lack of interest).
If you are using your position of power or personal power in anyway to intimidate others or to belittle them in anyway, you are a bully. Take seriously your actions as a leader. Ask others to give you input (but if you are a bully, most people won’t be honest with you). You may need a confidential assessment done by HR or an outside coach to help. There is no room for bullies in the workplace. None. Don’t be a bully and don’t allow bullies on your team.If you are using your power in anyway to intimidate or belittle others, you are a bully. Click To Tweet
“When pride comes, disgrace follows, but with humility comes wisdom.” Proverbs 11:2
What other bully behaviors would you add?