Guest post by Rodney Wilson
First, with the term “men’s ministry” I am not talking about one event or even a program for men. Think bigger picture. Rather, let’s look at men’s ministry as a church culture that is intentional about reaching men, discipling them, and calling them to serve.
Here is one example of how I have recently connected with men. Two years ago, I chose three young men to disciple. I had the honor of conducting each of their weddings and getting to know them through the pre marriage counseling required at our church. I knew their stories and had built a relationship of trust with them. When our pastor challenged us to personally disciple others, it seemed natural to invest in these three men.
My two years with these guys have been an amazing blessing to me as I have seen them grow in their faith, in their study of God’s word, and in their personal prayer life. They are now praying with their wives and are ready to begin to disciple other men.
Here are three reasons why your church needs a focus on men:
- If you reach a man, you can reach his family.
This point is a mere matter of efficiency. Statistics verify that a man is key to reaching the family. Consider:
• If a child accepts Christ first, there is a 3.5% chance of the whole family becoming Christian.
• If a mother accepts Christ first, there is a 17% chance of the whole family becoming followers of Christ.
• If the father accepts Christ first, there is a 93% chance the whole family will follow Christ.
This is a real no-brainer. Want to build your church? The Kingdom? Connect with the men in your community. Selma is always talking about the 80%-20% rule. The church should keep in mind the 93%-17%-3.5% rule as well.
- Men need other men.
Men are better equipped to understand men. They need the community of other men to study God’s word, share life experiences, and be challenged to grow and lead.
I have heard Selma tell women many times, “Your husband feels every emotion that you do”. Often it just takes longer for their “emotional shell to crack” and for a man to share what’s deeply inside him. The church provides an opportunity for that shell to crack. A place of safety to share, to be challenged, encouraged, and pushed. A place where iron can truly sharpen iron (“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17 HCSB). Sometimes it takes a while for trust to be established. However, once it is formed, godly relationships can be powerful – for the family as well as the church.
What we are talking about is setting a table for honesty. An environment of trust encourages a man to be honest. Honest with his fears and struggles. Where honesty is present, true ministry can take place. And the body of Christ will always function better where there is honesty.
- Men need a safe outlet & have a unique impact.
Men are wired to do. Reaching men often involves providing things for them to do. Whether it is assisting with sound & lighting in a worship service, riding motorcycles for an afternoon, painting the home of a family in need, or doing parking lot duty on Sunday morning – men are action oriented. Rather than talking about it initially, they want to do it.
Curiously, as they do activities with other men, the talking can begin. Walls can fall. Shells can crack, relationships can form, trust can grow and the body of Christ can function. Churches that understand this will make sure they have ministries and places of leadership for men to use their gifts to impact others.If the father accepts Christ first, there is a 93% chance the whole family will follow Christ. Click To Tweet
The numbers don’t lie. The resource is before us to reach the family. It is men. If you are a man, find a way to connect with other men. If you are a woman, encourage your men’s ministry leaders. Everyone pray for this vital element of the body of Christ.