This post is a wake up call for all leaders of people. Your words carry an enormous and lasting impact in the lives of people. Your position puts you in a place to encourage, build up, develop, challenge, coach, train, and teach. It also puts you in a place that can cause others to lose heart, lose hope, give up, and to even be deeply hurt with scars that last for years or a lifetime. Be aware of the weight of your words on people.This is a wake up call for all you leaders. Here are 17 things NEVER to say to the people you lead: Click To Tweet
Even when hard conversations need to take place with people — even conversations that mean a person is no longer on the team — there are some words that should never be said.
Think about it in your own life. If we could chat over coffee and I asked you to share statements made to you by people in authority (parents, pastors, teachers, coaches, and bosses), you would be able to recall with remarkable detail those impactful statements both good and bad. I asked several people to give me input on this post.
Here is the top list of things to NEVER say to the people you lead:
- You’re not the right fit and we should never have hired you.
- I don’t have time for your problems, I have my own.
- Please handle this. That’s what you get paid to do.
- I don’t need your opinion just do your job.
- Don’t do anything without asking me first.
- Now is not a good time.
- How many hours have you worked this week?
- Great job BUT . . . .
- You are making me look bad.
- You have gotten us in this situation and there is no way out.
- It is your fault we messed up.
- This is how it is done around here. We don’t need you to make changes.
- This is above your pay grade.
- You just don’t understand these things.
- I don’t want to hear about it. Just do your job.
- I don’t need you to tell me what to do.
- Would you put your job on the line for this?
If you have used any of these statements that you can recall, it would be so impactful if you went to the person and apologized. A humble leader that is willing to say, “I am sorry” will be a stand out leader long after they are gone.
What statements have you heard from leaders that you think should never be said?What statements have you heard from leaders that you think should never be said? Click To Tweet Don't EVER say this to your employees: 'Please handle this. That's what you get paid to do.' Click To Tweet Don't EVER say this to your employees: 'This is how it is done around here. We don't need you to make changes.' Click To Tweet Don't EVER say this to your employees: 'I don't need your opinion just do your job.' Click To Tweet
“The words of a man’s mouth are deep waters, a flowing river, a fountain of wisdom.” Proverbs 18:4
“Life and death are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Proverbs 18:21