The best leadership, in my opinion, comes out of the resolve a leader has made in his or her heart.
The resolve of a leader is a pre-determined approach to way a leader will lead. These are personal convictions, values, personally held beliefs, which shape decisions a leader makes and the way responds to others.
Your personal resolve – about anything – always determines the way you respond and your actions towards it.
Breaking the Ice in Communication “Cold Snaps” by Ryan Frederick
In my last post, I discussed 5 habits for building rock-solid communication in your marriage. What I wrote was based on personal experience and scripture, but they’re all proactive measures for communicating more effectively. What do we do when we’re already IN a frustrating moment/season and we don’t know how to break loose? How can we break the ice and let our guard down when everything inside of us wants to hold onto frustration?
Selena and I have experienced PLENTY of “communication cold snaps” in our marriage. A “cold snap” is defined as a “a sudden, brief spell of cold weather.” Things get icy in marriage when bitterness builds up from being hurt, mistreated, or misunderstood over a long period of time. “Cold snaps” happen when we don’t nip communication issues in the bud.
My Grandmother’s Seeds by Lecrae
For most kids, summertime means the end of school and the beginning of sleeping late, swimming long, and staying up past bedtime. For me, the arrival of summer meant leaving home.
After school wrapped up each year, my mom would send me away by plane, train, or automobile to stay with my grandmother in San Diego for several months. To someone who grew up in a home where children never left their parents’ sides for extended periods, this may sound a little odd. But my mother’s decision to send me to San Diego was made for me, not in spite of me. Mom despised the idea of accepting government assistance, so summers gave her a chance to get in front of her finances for the next year. With me gone, she could pick up some late night shifts and work a second job.
This verse in Scripture cannot be more compelling or clearer:
“Pure and undefiled religion before our God and Father is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself unstained by the world.” (James 1:27)
Scholars have produced massive volumes on the biblical mandate to care for orphans and widows. The Bible is not ambiguous on this topic. I am grateful churches around the world have taken some steps to care for the orphans, though much more remains to be done.
But, in North American churches, I see hardly any intentional church wide ministries to widows. Millions are left to suffer and struggle in silence.
Hashtag Courage by Sharon Hodde Miller
One year ago today, my son Coen was born. Roughly two weeks after that, I wrote a blog post to explain the meaning of his name. Coen is Dutch for “brave,” and it’s a name I hope he lives into. I hope both of my sons will be brave the way Jesus was brave.
That’s how I felt, and that’s how I still feel today. But. Here’s what I didn’t count on: Coen has NO FEAR. Like, zero fear. I’m not kidding you. Almost everywhere we go, the boy barrels into crowds, beelines toward open stairwells, and splats himself across hardwood floors again and again and again. And then keeps on running.
Nearly every day of the week, someone shakes their head at me and worries, “He has NO fear!” And I nod–because it’s true–while I shudder inside. I wanted Coen to be brave, but not THAT brave.
I’ve had that thought numerous times in the last month. I want Coen to be brave, but not that brave. I mean, a little fear is healthy, right? The kid needs SOME inhibitions to keep him from diving head first down the stairs…which he would do, if we didn’t stop him. Is this God’s way of playing a joke on us? Is this a lesson about being “careful what you pray for”? Kind of like how no one prays for humility?