2015 was a great year here at SelmaWilson.com! I sincerely appreciate everyone who has taken time to read blog posts, listen to our newly-launched podcast Selma on Leadership, comment or share this year. Today, I’ll be sharing a review of the top 10 most popular posts from this year.
Top 10 Posts of 2015:
Are You Connecting With Your People?
Over the years, I have done several employee surveys. Employee surveys are great tools when you are a new leader or when you are taking a deeper dive into an area for assessment. In every survey and listening session with people, more communication always rises to the top as a critical issue to be addressed. I am often surprised that leaders think they are communicating well but their team feels differently. If you want a high performance team, you must have high engagement with your team.
Often leaders think if they communicate once, that gets the job done. It doesn’t. People engagement must be a regular and consistent part of your leadership. Intentional and ongoing. Formal and informal. Speaking and listening. Read more >>
Weekends are great times to refuel. Time with family, friends, worship, ministry, just having another routine allows people to disconnect from the daily operational execution of work. Monday is the day to jump start the energy of a well-rested and refueled team. Reading, thinking, pondering — all are inputs that provide an amazing opportunity for output on a team.
Mondays are great because they represent a fresh new week packed with new opportunities, and yes even new challenges. Do you look forward to Monday mornings or is it the time you most dread in the week? Read more >>
Let’s face it: family life today is flat out busy. Everyone has packed schedules and often you will find yourselves moving at a fast speed but not connecting with your spouse at all. A few weeks of that may be okay, but it can also be setting up dangerous patterns that can cause couples to disconnect, lose intimacy, and even lose each other in the rush of the urgent.
Here are three quick ways each day that can keep you connected through the rush of normal life. These will not be sufficient for the long term. As a couple you still need longer connection times through date nights, overnight get-aways, and longer retreat times. But for the normal, day-to-day rush, here are three connection times that can make the difference. Read more >>
If you are a leader, more than likely you have a strong personality. I have worked with many “lion” leaders in my day. The very power of their personality can move people to follow. But I have also seen those same lion leaders fall simply because they rebelled against the authority over them.
Submission is not a word you usually connect to leadership but it may be one of the most powerful attributes for a leader to succeed in going the distance and successfully passing that baton of leadership to his/her successor. Read more >>
Over the years I have spoken with many leaders who have been wounded by critics. The story is usually the same: they ask to meet with me during a time of reflection on their life and leadership. After some small talk and a normal dialogue on leadership, we get to the heart of the matter. Sometimes that means I see how exhausted they are, and sometimes they end up in tears. It’s easy to spot a wounded leader. Read more >>
Being a Mother has been the most rewarding, challenging, adventurous, and fulfilling role in my life. Being a Mom has stretched me, grown me, and taught me so much about life and leadership. I wouldn’t be the leader I am today, had I not gone through the boot camp of motherhood.
I have two adult daughters now and two amazing sons (in-laws) and three of the most adorable grandchildren on the planet (I will be glad to share pictures and stories!).
Here are a few ways that being a mom has made me a better leader. Read more >>
Proverbs 18:21 – “Life and death are in the power of the tongue . . . “
Are you aware of the words you are speaking to your team?
Your words are powerful. Often we will remember the negative words spoken first. Words have a lasting impact on our lives both for good and for bad. A leader needs to be aware of the power of their words and be careful not to use words carelessly. Read more >>
My husband and I have been involved in marriage ministry now for over 30 years. It is one of our greatest joys to teach and help couples experience the joy of marriage as God designed it – oneness, intimacy, partnership, friendship, and so much more.
But way too often, we see it: the signs of a marriage in trouble. Rodney spends a great deal of his ministry time counseling troubled marriages and it is beautiful to see how God can take something that is dying and give it new life. But sometimes, all the counseling in the world doesn’t help. The marriage dies. Read more >>
When Do You Know It’s Time to Resign?
We recently deleted a position on our team and had to let an individual go. Yes, this has happened before and each time I feel the full weight of this outcome. When leaders bring me this recommendation, I require us to look at all options, we spend a significant amount of time in prayer, and then really challenge the conclusions reached. As hard as it is, there are times when people need to leave the team for many reasons – strategy change so a line of work is no longer needed or the way work is done changes and the position is no longer needed.
In the changing market we serve today, it is even more important that we help prepare those we lead to be successful. Whatever position you hold on your team, your organization needs you to be all in – heart, mind, and hands. A love for the work, a commitment to learning and growing, and a commitment to do all you can to advance the work of the team. Read more >>
Rodney and I have been involved in marriage ministry now for over thirty years. We felt God call us to this ministry early in our marriage and have counseled, written, taught and lead retreats and conferences on marriage. One of the most painful parts of this ministry is walking through the heartbreak of an affair. Sin. Betrayal. Brokenness. Gut-wrenching pain.
We have walked this road with way too many couples and each time we ask: how did this happen? What could we do to teach or lead couples to never ever go down this path of pain and devastation? After years of ministering through the pain of an affair, we believe in taking strong measures. Your marriage and family are worth your protection. Read more >>