The following is a guest post by my daughter, Jen McCaman. Jen is a full time bread-crust-remover, silly song singer, and boo-boo kisser to Josiah, 4 and Abby, 18 months. In between peek-a-boos she enjoys freelance writing and leading a college small group. She and her family recently moved home from Bangkok, Thailand to start a church in Murfreesboro, TN.
Whether you’re five or 95, we long to be beautiful as women. The world entices us to chase a shallow, fake kind of beauty that doesn’t satisfy. Girls begin to hate their bodies and feel the sting of insecurity at a young age. We must stand in the gap for them, not only teaching them about true beauty but modeling it for them. Our God offers a lasting, transforming beauty that increases over the years. Here are five beauty truths to teach your daughter.
1. Your beauty is deep.
Real beauty starts deep. It goes deeper than highlights and high heels. Past a perfect figure and the right kind of cleanser. Real beauty starts with your soul and spreads to your character, your personality, the way you treat others. 1 Peter 3:3-6 says, “Your beauty should not consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothes. Instead, it should consist of what is inside the heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very valuable in God’s eyes.” These are things the world doesn’t understand, but it’s real beauty.Whether you’re five or 95, we long to be beautiful as women. Click To Tweet
2. Your beauty is found in Him.
You are beautiful because God is beautiful. Psalm 139: 13-14 says, “For it was You who created my inward parts; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made.” You are made in the image of a beautiful God. He formed you and he knows you. You are beautiful because you were thought of and custom-designed by God.
3. Beauty starts with God.
Your beauty never started with you, nor is it about you. Beauty is defined by God because God is beauty. Everything he is and everything he does is beautiful. Psalm 27:4 says, “I have asked one thing from the Lord; it is what I desire: to dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, gazing on the beauty of the Lord and seeking Him in His temple.” You will never find beauty in yourself unless your eyes are on God. His beauty came first, and his beauty outlasts everything in this world.
4. Your beauty rises.
The world tells you if you look beautiful on the outside, you will feel beautiful on the inside. This is a complete lie. That’s why there are model-gorgeous high schoolers who starve themselves, picture-perfect middle school cheerleaders who struggle with cutting, and adorable moms who are slaves to the scale and the mirror. Outer beauty does absolutely nothing to give you real confidence and real worth. Only Christ can do that. Once you are transformed by him, you have a kind of inner beauty that rises to the surface and permeates every area of your life. You have a beautiful, genuine smile. You have eyes that see hurting people. You have a contagious joy. You have wisdom to cover your body and dress modestly. You have hands that help the poor. Beauty in Christ rises to the outside. It’s magnetic to a lost world because they don’t have it. This is why some of the most beautiful women we know are our mothers, our grandmothers, women of the faith who have spent a lifetime serving God, women who wouldn’t make the cover of Vogue, but who’s beauty impacts everyone they meet. It’s the beauty of Christ in them.You are beautiful because God is beautiful. Click To Tweet
5. You must fight for your beauty.
The enemy wants to devour your beauty. 1 Peter 5: 8 says “Be serious! Be alert! Your adversary the Devil is prowling around like a roaring lion, looking for anyone he can devour.” You have to step into the ring and fight. Guard your eyes. Guard the shows you watch. Pay attention to the friends you let in your life. Do they make you feel good about yourself? Do they build you up? Never put yourself down, that attitude is contagious. Allow others to fight on your behalf. If someone says you probably shouldn’t wear something because it’s not appropriate, listen to them. Stay connected to God’s word as the authority for our lives. Take your beauty captive before The Lord. Ask him to refine any lies of the world that are poisoning your view of yourself and your influence on your daughter. You are a beautiful daughter of the King of Kings. The close you are to Him, the more beautiful you become.