If you have daughters, my dad can teach you a few things about raising a girl.
I am still a daddy’s girl even at 58. My dad turns 90 this year and Rodney and I recently spent a week with him and my step mom in his winter home in Florida (he is a true snow bird flying to his Tennessee farm in the summer and heading south in the winter). Rodney and I had the joy of leading a conference in his church. It was the first time my dad had heard me teach. It was such a blessing for me and dad was proud of his little girl.
Dad raised a girl that ended up as a leader.
I don’t know the plans God has for your girl(s), but I do know you are in a powerful position to help shape and guide her future. You can give your girl(s) the confidence and courage to use the gifts God has given them.As a Dad I know you are in a powerful position to help shape and guide your daughter's future. Click To Tweet
Here are a few life lessons I learned from my Dad:
1. Unconditional love.
I have always known and still know today that my daddy loves me, believes in me, prays for me, and he cheers me on.
My dad always had time for me. Growing up in a rural setting, dad’s work was the farm and the work would rival any corporate job. It doesn’t matter where you work as a dad, work is still work. Dad was always busy but he always made time for our family and me.
I still hold my dad’s hand and soak up his hugs. Dads give affection differently, but it is critical that your girl(s) know you are crazy about them. A hug, holding hands, or just sitting together playing a game or watching a movie are all impactful. Tender affection stirs up confidence and deep joy.
4. Authentic faith.
My dad’s faith has been an anchor for me all my life. There is absolutely no doubt that he believes in God and has a personal relationship with Christ.
I remember vividly asking dad about his faith the day after my mom died of breast cancer. For over a year, I had watched him fight the fight for her life. He did everything he could do humanly, but she died. On that country porch swing, as we sat and looked out over the mist of the morning, I asked him about his faith in God. I can still hear his words of confidence in God even in the middle of the pain. “I don’t understand, but I trust God.”
A faith lived out as real will give your daughter the confidence to live boldly.I asked my dad about his faith after mom died & he said, 'I don't understand, but I trust God.' Click To Tweet
Dad is a man of integrity. His word was his word. He gave, he served, and he shared his faith with others. Truth was truth. Your daughter is learning most by how you live.
6. Hard work.
Everyone in our family was expected to work and my dad (and mom) set the pace. I grew up working. From the earliest age, I had jobs to do around the house. Everyone in the family had jobs to do. There was never a question about work. No entitlement. No special treatment because I was a girl. My work ethic was instilled in me at an early age.
7. Be positive.
My Dad is positive — a glass half full kind of guy. He smiles often and laughs easily. He worked hard but he also played hard. His faith brought joy to his life and to our family. No matter how hard the situation, he always had hope.
8. He believed in me.
I knew my dad believed in me. He pushed me to be my best. He encouraged me but he also challenged me. He wanted me to reach my full potential. He encouraged my education and he championed my accomplishments.
9. Be future focused.
My Dad taught me to be future focused. To have dreams and work hard and see those dreams accomplished. He dreamed of owning his own farm and he did that when I was nine. In my teen years, Dad and mom traveled around the US and around the world sharing their faith. When my mom died, dad kept his eyes on Jesus and his future. God lead him to marry my step mom and they have served faithfully in their church for twenty years. At almost 90, my dad is still future focused.
10. He let me go.
When Rodney asked for my hand in marriage, it was hard for Dad but he let me go. He blessed my marriage and he stepped back giving Rodney the place of leadership in our marriage and home. Dad was and has always been in my life but there was a very clear shift and I am thankful he let me go.
I know my dad is a big reason I can lead today with confidence and with peace. Whatever God’s plans are for your daughter(s), let God use you to prepare them to say, “yes” to those plans.Whatever God's plans are for your daughter(s), let God use you to prepare them to say YES to them. Click To Tweet
What do you pray for your daughters?