Candace, you have an amazing story as a young actress, TV star, media celebrity, and now a well-know author. It is impossible to even list all that you have accomplished. Your most recent book, Balancing It All, is something every woman wants. How have you done it as a wife and a mother?
Thank you! That’s quite the introduction! I think it’s impossible to share every detail of how I’ve managed to do it all while keeping being a mom as a top priority, but if there’s one key to share, it’s just that. Prioritizing. My priorities are what guide everything I do.
Obviously, working provides for my family and is something I truly enjoy but I know my responsibilities with my family and love for God must come first. If those first two are out of balance, then my whole life feels out of whack. I have a lot of support and help from my family and friends and I couldn’t do it without them.
What are some lessons you have learned, some even the hard way, that you would share with our readers?
It’s so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day activities of life, getting consumed with the little things. I know as a woman, I can replay conversations in my mind over and over like a broken record and allow them to eat me up if they didn’t go as expected. Maybe someone said something at my son’s hockey practice that rubbed me the wrong way, or my husband (unintentionally) didn’t give me the big hug I needed at that moment, or my daughter has major drama with friends and I just feel like I’m on overload! That’s when I stop to breath and step aside to a quite room and pray. It really puts life back into perspective for me. I’ll pray for God to clear my mind, to settle my uneasy spirit and intercede when I know I can’t do it on my own. God always shows Himself, even if it’s just receiving a dose of patience to get me through the next hour.
God has placed you in front of the camera and is using you in many ways to engage the culture. How do you do that in a culture that continues to challenge our faith? What insights have you gained that Christians need to know?
All I can do is be me. That is something I’ve learned whether I’m engaging the secular audience or the Christian audience. And sometimes, they don’t feel that different especially within social media. My love for Jesus defines me and I won’t change sharing my faith despite the culture that challenges it. I had to accept that everyone is not going to love me and Who I represent or what I stand for. And that’s OK. I just have to ignore those who make fun of me or think I’m ridiculous for believing the Bible, because at the end of the day, I’m not answering to them. I’m answering to God.
When we share our faith with others, it’s important we remember to allow God to do the work. It’s our job to plant the seed and water it by encouraging along the way. One thing NOT to do, is argue with other Christians about particulars of faith over social media. It’s a fast way to turn the unbeliever off. I find that with social media, opinions and words become so strong; they are likely things people would not actually say to someone’s face, or can be read with harsh inflections that wouldn’t be spoken the same way. Truth must be told in love, not condemnation, and not over social media to those you don’t really know.
Most recently, you were named as one of the latest celebrities on Dancing with the Stars. What excites and challenges you most about this opportunity?
I’m SO excited to be on DWTS. I’ve always loved the show and hoped one day it would work out for me to compete on it. Sports and fitness is a huge part of the Bure family considering my husband was a professional athlete and a two-time Olympic medalist. I am looking forward to challenging my body through this dance competition both mentally and physically. I want to make my husband proud and show my kids that no matter what makes you nervous or scares you, if you don’t try, you’ll never know if you can succeed! I don’t have any dance experience, so I’m literally learning from step 1 in front of millions of people. I’m also competitive, particularly with myself, and can’t wait to see what I’m able to accomplish. And most of all, I just love dancing, so I’m having the time of my life!