Blog Post by Rodney A. Wilson
Rodney Wilson is a regular guest post writer on Selma on Leadership. Rodney has been a marriage and family pastor/counselor for almost 20 years. Rodney and Selma have been married for 40 years and they have spoken and written on marriage and family issues for most of their married life.
Heads up. This post is not a guilt trip. Rather, it’s a checklist you can use when you run out of ideas on how to love your kid. Yes, he can drive you crazy, but keep in mind that raising him is indeed a temporary assignment.Heads up. This post is not a guilt trip. Rather, it's a checklist. Click To Tweet
Here are 14 ways to meet some vital needs in your son’s life. Dad, I need …
1. Time. Don’t believe the quality-versus-quantity myth. I need both. I’ll give you some ideas. Read on.
2. A hug. If I’m a little guy, I need a lot of them. Some from mom, but a lot from you.
3. A thank-you. I need you to recognize the help I give around the house. No, I don’t do it perfectly, but please let me know that you notice the good I do.
4. An attaboy. Tell me you are proud of me when I succeed.
5. A celebration! When our favorite team wins, let’s get happy and do something. Make a big deal of my birthday or the report card I bring home. All A’s or not, let’s celebrate!
6. A special trip with you. (See #1.) This could be something I have to work for, like saving money or accomplishing something. Let’s plan it way ahead, like a couple of months or so. That way we’ll both have something to look forward to.
7. An inside joke! That will bring us closer and make me feel special to you.
8. Permission to fail. Please do not expect perfection from me. Obedience, yes but I cannot be perfect.
9. A firm no when I cross your boundaries.
10. A firm discipline when I continue crossing them. (Fair but firm.)
11. A clear and consistent love when I struggle with you. I need to know of your love for me in the midst of the battle.
12. Permission to be angry – even with you, as long as I am not defiant or disrespectful of you.
13. A project to work on with you. (See #1 again!)
14. A persistent belief in me that you frequently remind me of.Let the Lord give you His daily wisdom on being a dad. Click To Tweet
Earlier in this post, “the kid” was asking you not to expect perfection of him. True, but neither should you expect it of yourself as a dad. Let the Lord give you His daily wisdom on being a dad and watch yourself and your son grow in the journey.
Fathers, do not stir up anger in your children, but bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4