Blog Post by Rodney A. Wilson
Rodney Wilson is a regular guest post writer on Selma on Leadership. Rodney has been a marriage and family pastor/counselor for almost 20 years. Rodney and Selma have been married for 40 years and they have spoken and written on marriage and family issues for most of their married life.
Having a new baby in the home is a beautiful experience. It’s also exhausting physically, emotionally, and relationally. The world tells you that a new baby means your marriage automatically goes on the back burner. While your sweet new addition requires a lot of energy, you don’t have to neglect your marriage. There are things you can do, even in the craziness of a newborn, to strengthen your marriage. The key? Think simple. Here are four simple ways to grow your relationship while welcoming a baby into your home.Here are four simple ways to grow your marriage while welcoming a baby into your home. Click To Tweet
1. Pray together. Add prayer into your bedtime routine. Along with bath time, singing, rocking, last feeding, and goodnight kisses, begin to pray together over your baby. A simple sentence prayer can be the start of making your home a home of prayer. This is the best time to build a prayer routine that can last for years. It doesn’t take a lot of time, but it can strengthen your marriage greatly.
2. Evaluate weekly. At the end of each week, ask each other these two questions:
1.) What worked well between us last week?
2.) What could have gone better?
It seems small, but a quick, built-in evaluation at the end of each week allows you to praise each other and get anything off your chest that you wish would have gone better.
Bonus question for new dads: Ask, “How can I help?” A new arrival can be joyous yet overwhelming for a new mom. A simple offer to help can be powerful in enhancing your relationship in the midst of the chaos.4 simple ways to grow your marriage with a newborn. Click To Tweet
3. Look ahead. Glance at the upcoming week and share expectations. Ask each other, “What are you anticipating this week?” Pediatrician appointment? About to run out of diapers? Late work meetings? Extended family gathering? Get on the same page so you can face the week ahead as a team.
4. Ask, “How are you?” Find some time to listen to each other. Share with your spouse how you are doing. What are you feeling at this point? Blown away? Grateful? So in love with this new blessing? So exasperated with this new blessing? As it says in James, be quick to listen and slow to speak, but both spouses need to share what they are feeling. Hearing and telling your feelings can draw you closer together.
Taking a few minutes to seek the Lord together, talk about how it’s going, what you are expecting in the week ahead, and what you’re feeling can solidify your marriage relationship in the midst of this wonderful and challenging blessing to your family.