Blog Post by Rodney A. Wilson
Men and leadership
One view of putting these two concepts together often conjures up images of domineering, conquering and an incessant desire to show anyone around who is boss. Men, however, are prescribed by God to be leaders, but not in a power-seeking manner. So how can a man lead as Christ wants him to lead, and as Christ Himself led? What is the difference between fearsome and godly leadership?How can a man lead as Christ wants him to lead? What is the difference between fearsome and godly leadership? Click To Tweet
The love of Christ: It changes everything. Just as Jesus turned every other aspect of conventional thinking upside down, He also did with men and their role – through His love.
Here are three reasons why men need to know (and be reminded of) the love of Christ.
- He will lead properly.
Just as the Jews in Jesus’ day had an incorrect image of Jesus coming as a warrior/military king, men often have an incorrect image of what their role is as “head of the wife” and leader of the family. Too many times men claim Ephesians 5:23 (“for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church.”) as a license to command total obedience from his wife to his every whim. Uh, no.
This is improper leadership for a man. I have heard my pastor say many times, “If you have to tell someone you are in charge, you are not in charge.” Well put. Don’t play that card, guys.
However, as a man is taught the Word of God, through personal study or however his walk with God increases, he will see that Jesus’ leadership is the opposite of a demanding spirit. Instead, He said, “The greatest among you will be your servant” (Matthew23:11 HCSB). Think washing feet. Undeserved, servant love. Discovering the love of the Servant-Leader can transform our naturally self-focused lives to a love and leadership that is proper.
- He will reach his family for Christ and His church.
If the man of the house feels the love of Christ on him, it will spread throughout his domain. I have often said that if a man steps up his walk with Christ (“Come near to God and he will come near to you”James 4:8), and discovers the love Christ has for him, that “nearness” cannot be concealed. It will spill over to his wife. His family. His neighbors. His coworkers. His world.
Perhaps it will be noticed when his kids see him reading his Bible in the morning; or how he calls the family to prayer; or how he consistently leads his family to worship; or how he has a genuine peace about him when the family is going through a crisis – all kinds of ways.
A family will respond to leadership of a man who is aware of Christ’s love for him. It is why the percentages of a family coming to Christ are off the charts when the husband/daddy first receives Christ. Can you say 93%???
- He will glorify God with his leadership style.
As a man begins to realize that Christ’s love for him is not earned, rather given out of grace, his performance-based lifestyle gives way to one of service. This Christ-like servant attitude is how God designed the man to live his life. And when a man lives according to how God designed him to live, it brings glory to God. Guilt fades. Confidence builds (“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” Phil 4:13). Marriages function much better and families are godlier.
In a larger context, power struggles within the church can subside as men seek to lead as the Ultimate Leader led – from a servant perspective – all based on the love of our Lord. Do not underestimate the extent that God can use a man who knows of His love. And do not underestimate the power of that Love.Do not underestimate the extent that God can use a man who knows of His love. Click To Tweet
“How deep the Father’s love for us,
How vast beyond all measure,
That He should give His only Son
To make a wretch His treasure.”
(from How Deep the Father’s Love for Us, by Stuart Townend)