Welcome to Season 1, Episode 13 of the Selma on Leadership podcast. In this episode, my fabulous husband Rodney joins us and we discuss the importance of friendship in marriage with my co-host Kristen McCall. Are you friends with your spouse? Sharing friendship with your partner provides companionship. Listen in as we discuss ways to cultivate it so that intimacy can be greater within your own marriage.
In this episode you will learn:
- Why friendship gives some color to marriage
- How to cultivate friendship with your spouse if you aren’t the best of friends right now
- The importance of guarding against inappropriate relationships
- Why you both need to be independent before coming together as friends
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“One of the things you don’t want to miss in marriage is the joy of being together. So many couples do. They get so busy making a living they forget to have a life. Friendship is something that makes life much more colorful, much more fun. It’s just enjoying each other’s company. Friendship is critical and it’s a gift that we have from God. We don’t have to choose: we can have sexual intimacy, spiritual intimacy and we can also have friendship with a marriage.” — Selma
“You’ve got to guard your emotional intimacy. I have a lot of relationships with men, but I don’t share emotionally with other men. I’m not going to share my heart with other men. I’m going to guard that for Rodney. Scripture talks about guarding your heart, and so I do think you need to be very conservative in those relationships. It’s not going to hurt anything.” — Selma
“Life is hard and in terms of its unpredictability and insecurity and all that kind of stuff. You need that partnership, that friendship together, but the fun you have there can really take the edge off of the stress. Raising kids is hard. It’s fun in itself, and it’s a joy, and worth it — but it’s hard work. Marriage itself is hard work, so some of the fun stuff you do, the friendship you share together takes the edge off that together and keeps you focused on each other.” — Rodney
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